The Lie of Normalcy
Most of us, it seems, have wondered somewhere deep down inside if we are normal. We have bought into a lie that says we must look, dress, act, and think a certain way, or we are somehow fatally flawed – “ABNORMAL.”
It has a pretty scary ring to it doesn’t it?
But here’s the thing, “normal” is simply viewing people from 35,000 feet in the air.
Think about the last time you flew in an airplane. If you looked out the window, you could see trees, houses, lakes, mountains - but they all look pretty much the same. That’s how people look, too, when we don’t get close enough to appreciate the detail.
“Normal” is a pair of glasses that allows us to lump people together based on certain characteristics – because, let’s face it, there is nothing we love better than to sort people into ‘us’ and ‘them’. We will sort people based on race, gender, hair color, fitness level, education level, religion, where they went to school….you name it. We stereotype and discriminate (if only within our own mind) based on what we have in common, or don’t have in common, with everyone we meet.
Somehow we have bought into a lie that if we group people together in some way, it will help us understand them. We think that we know something about them because they are like us in some small way. Or perhaps we think we know something about them because they are like ‘them’ in some small way.
The reality is just the opposite. When we glump people together based on one characteristic, regardless of what the characteristic is, we are removing ourselves to a distance where we can’t possibly understand them at all. We see them as we might see a field of wildflowers – a vast sea of color – rather than as an individual created uniquely in the image of the Creator.
There is more to people than that one characteristic! Each of the millions of characteristics we have, the experiences we’ve lived, the DNA God created us with – all of this combines to form a perfectly unique person unlike any other who has ever lived.
Like a key in a lock, God created those unique characteristics to achieve a unique purpose. A purpose that no other person who has ever lived could achieve. Imagine a ‘normal’ key – one that is indistinguishable from a million other keys – would it fit the same lock? Of course not.
Enjoy the unique way that God created you. Seek to discover and work to achieve the unique purpose He has for your life. Take the time to get up close and see other people’s uniqueness. Learn to appreciate the unique facets of their character and seek to encourage them in the purpose to which He has called them.